Peacock or Eagle. Who’s your mentor?

Peacock or Eagle? Choose your mentor

I’ve decided I don’t like Peacocks!  Not the birds, you understand, but the preening, self-congratulatory, loud individuals who can usually be found selling themselves as gurus and mentors – and giving those who actually are, a bad name. 

‘Ooh, look at my flash motor’, ‘Look at my fabulous house’, ‘Don’t you think I look just Gorgeous in my fancy outfit?’  – ‘Follow me and you too can have this extravagant lifestyle…’

They charge a lot of money too (to pay for their extravagant lifestyle), and they often attract those people who want to boast about how much they are paying to be ‘mentored’, because they believe that automatically means they can raise their prices to similar levels.

You know the sort of people I’m talking about.  You may have even worked with one or two of them before.

And the thing is, they may actually have good information to impart, even if it is often a re-hash of a re-hash of other people’s work.  But for me, and it is just my opinion, the really good stuff is hidden behind the complete lack of emotional intelligence, or any authentic rapport.  I just can’t buy into this type of person – I’d rather stick pins in my eyes.

I do completely get the need for a business mentor though – someone who has credibility and influence, and the contacts you don’t yet have.  Someone who’s had the triumphs and disasters, and has the scars to prove it.  Someone who’ll inspire you and challenge you, and give you a kick when it’s needed.

An eagle, or maybe an owl, when compared to the preening peacock.

I have a few mentors. 

In fact, last week I was called a Groupie, because I’d been seen so often in one particular mentor’s company.  I think it was meant as an insult.  After all a Groupie is over-the-top enthusiastic, and completely uncritical – a non-thinking sheep, a blind follower. The peacocks have a lot of these.

But honestly, while I’d prefer the title friend, or even mentee, I’m ok with being called a Groupie of this guy, however far from the truth it is. 

Why?  Because for me, Daniel Priestley is everything a mentor should be.

  • He’s super smart – able to cut to the nub of a business issue, and explain it with absolute clarity.
  • He’s inspiring – but not by showcasing his wealth and promising you similar riches, far from it.  Instead he looks for the potential greatness in the individual, shows them it, and then supports them in achieving it.
  • He believes in himself totally – but yet has a more than healthy dose of humility.
  • He’s a thought-leader – with original views and perspectives on global as well as business issues.
  • He’s creative – and fun to be around.
  • He sells stuff – and does it very well – but there’s never any pressure to buy, never a hint of desperation to sell.  It’s elegant, and authentic. A model to copy.
  • He is a key person of influence – and because he has worked hard to become one, he attracts business and other influencers to him.  Even Richard Branson has added him to the list of only 3800 people he follows on Twitter!
  • He’s very definitely one of the good guys.  Another of a similar stamp is James Lavers.  Just all-round good guys.  If you’ve ever met either of them, you know exactly what I mean.  

So here’s a question:  Are you following a peacock, or are you learning from your eagle mentor how to lead – how to sore above the crowd?

I dallied with a few peacocks before I found my eagle.  It’s easy to be attracted to the bright, colourful plumage, to be drawn to the shiny things they want to sell you; to be seduced by their dance and forget to look up to where the eagles are soaring.

Just ask yourself: Do you share their values? Do you aspire to follow their route to success, or do you want what they have, despite the road they’re telling you to take?  Do they make you feel good about yourself or is it all about them?

At the end of the day, it’s all a matter of personal perspective, and we all have to make our own choices.

Good luck in making the right one for you.

One Response to “Peacock or Eagle. Who’s your mentor?”

  1. Helen Elizabeth Evans

    Well said, Marianne. Really like the “find a mentor with the same values as you”! Very good advice. Good plug for Daniel Priestley. Would be good to see you compare James Lavers in the same way. Any others you think deserve eagle status?

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